Perspectives ~ Taking Care rather than Care Taking

Tuesday, May 19, 2015

In this world that we live in today, we are taught either to take, take, take, or give, give, give, or a flip flop of both.

When we are out of balance, dysfunctional patterns tend to keep us locked in particular mindsets that prevent us from truly reaching our full potential and our full sovereignty. If we grew up in a dysfunctional family, chances are that we are operating out of one of these two patterns of either giving waaay too much or taking waaay more than our share. If you have heard the expression, “give an inch, they take a mile” then you know what I am talking about. Those of us who grew up with either a single parent or an alcoholic or rageful parent know that this is a pattern that is extremely challenging and definitely hard to break.

The key to this pattern releasing itself for good, is the concept and practice of Energetic Responsibility. Energetic Responsibility consists of being in true alignment with yourself at all times, and learning how to navigate the waters of communication on an energetic and verbal level when interacting with others and making decisions for yourself. If you have never experienced energetic responsibility, it may be a foreign concept or appear as an arrogance, or indifference in others, when in fact, they are just taking care of themselves.

Most people that are energetically responsible, are loving and kind, and have full confidence in their abilities, and their boundaries are very strong, leaving very little room for negotiation on being taken advantage of by another person. You will also notice that they will be somewhat transparent in their communication and tend to make sure that they are not offending anyone, even if they are taking care of themselves. This is quite an uncommon experience to witness in this world that we live in today, but it does exist and you will notice it right away by the level of peace of mind that someone reflects in their personal experience.

Most people on the planet have learned dysfunctional and violent communication skills through their family structure, and have absolutely no idea that they are in fact communicating in a way that might harm or trigger others, emotionally or energetically. It takes a lot of practice and mindful communication to learn how to navigate an interaction in a way that offers safe and respectful communication. As we navigate these changing times, it is vital to be responsible for our communication with others, and not make assumptions and rather ask questions, rather than assuming that we know what others are thinking and act or react out of a fear-based idea that somehow our needs are not being met or we are not being taken into consideration.

When we finally learn to love ourselves, we realize that we do not desire to harm others in any way, as they are representative of ourselves. When we see someone that triggers us or makes us feel uncomfortable, a loving approach for ourselves would be to step into a place of right relations with ourselves and check in before acting out of a reaction or responding in a way that might fuel a fire that has already been lit. Sometimes we do not know what is really going on and can have trouble identifying what our feelings are and why we feel unsafe in the presence of another, if there is no back story. In those cases especially, it is always good to take the time to check in with ourselves and identify what the feeling actually is that we are feeling and where it is coming from. We can ask ourselves the following questions: “Is this mine, is this true, is it fair?” It could be that we are in actuality having a judgment about that particular person, before really checking in to see what it is about. Maybe our judgment is based on something as simple as the fact that they have not showered, or do not take care of themselves and their hygiene, or something similar. If, in those moments, where we find ourselves in judgment, it is encouraged that we look at what is really going on with that other person, and step out of our judgment, so that we may see the truth of that situation. In the eyes of compassion, maybe that person, more than anyone, needs unconditional love and someone who respects their lifestream enough to interact with them and tell them the truth, in a loving and honest way.

In other scenarios, you may actually feel unsafe and want to run away from that person. Chances are that you feel unsafe due to other influences that you can’t necessarily put your finger on, but know are there, such as a disembodied energy that may be attached to that person, due to substance abuse, and their energetic field being open to allow those energies to enter their space. In that case, it is best advisable to not lock eyes with that person, as energies can jump from person to person through the window to the soul. This also means however that it is imperative to remain neutral and not judge this person, as they may be totally unaware that they are hosting an energy in their field.

In all these ways, we are taking care, rather than care taking. We are being energetically responsible, and making sure that we stay safe and also take care of our own needs in the process. If we feel sorry for someone in that position, chances are we will get ourselves in a mess if we attempt to “save” someone, without really knowing what we are doing and how we will affect that person’s reality. Maybe they need to experience such depths of despair to really learn where their power lies, and to “save” themselves from their own demise. Their soul may have had reasons for choosing such a reality, and it is not up to us to determine their healing. If we are asked to help someone, we also need to be mindful that it does not impede upon our own growth or energy, and take care of ourselves by checking in about it every step of the way. If we ever get to that point where we know we have hit our limit, then we must retreat in order to take care of ourselves, and not give too much.

Sometimes we are addicted to helping others, due to a need in us to be needed or not be alone. This dysfunctional behavior can set us on a path of destruction, and leave us in a state of depletion that then compromises our physical health. A lot of times, our body will let us know that we have hit our limit, by creating a health crisis, to get us to listen. Most of the time, people refuse to listen, barreling through the pain, and continuing to function because of the demands of our society and the way our lives have been set up. The problem with this idea, is that we will not be around to enjoy our lives if we do not “take care” of ourselves. The mainstream ideas that society pushes continue to set us up for failure, and we end up harming ourselves, by allowing our power to be given away to these ideas that we must continue to push through and hurt ourselves in order to meet the status quo. Recent articles are coming out that are revealing that we are in fact in a construct that has been designed and set up for us to fail, and for others to benefit from our efforts. This is not the place for me to go into this at this moment, more will be revealed about this as time goes on and as it becomes more and more apparent, it will be obvious to anyone who is paying attention.

Taking care of ourselves rather than care taking others requires us to be diligent and pay attention to the nuances of our environment and interactions, so that we may benefit from our decisions and moving forward.
A few suggestions as to how to take care of ourselves:

When confronted with a decision and deciding about how to proceed forward in any given situation, it is important to check in with ourselves. We can do this by placing our left hand on our heart, and closing our eyes, and asking our heart’s intelligence which direction feels the most aligned with our hearts. We will know the right decision by the way our body responds. If we feel contraction or resistance, it may be our ego attempting to stop us from expanding, but also, it can be a warning. The way we can tell that it is the right decision, is if we feel at peace with that particular detail and how it fits into the whole scenario. If you do not feel at peace, then it is probably not the best time to make that decision or to move forward with that decision. There may be more details that need to reveal themselves before proceeding. If you just dont feel good about it, chances are that it is not the right decision.

When confronted by a person who is either bringing force towards you or a violent energy verbally, rather than fighting back and battling the demon head on, you can use the yin-yang practice, of countering the yang with the yin, by receiving with love and then throwing the yang off-balance into the yin, being able to come back with the yang as a direct force to be reckoned with, making sure that it is coming from a non-violent perspective and more about holding a boundary or standing in your truth, rather than your ego accusing or challenging the other person to the finish to see who wins. An example of this would be if someone starts yelling at you and requires a response after they have just accused you of something or have pointed the finger. You know you will not necessarily win the battle, so rather than fighting the battle, you allow that person to be heard while you surround them in white light and you allow them to complete their sentence so that they have spoken their truth, and then you give the situation a space of silence before responding, so that you can come to a resonance within yourself where you are responding in love. This person may be hurt and is really asking for love, and does not know how to ask for what they need. If you happen to be guilty of said accusation, this makes it even more important to come from a place of love and take full responsibility for your actions, and own them. If you are not guilty of said accusation, it is vital to counteract this violence with non-violent communication and respect, coming from a place of love.

Another issue that many of us are having in our lives these days is in regards to what is taking place all around us. As more and more people begin to lose their grip on this reality due to the imbalances present in our society, it is even more imperative that we listen and find the truth within ourselves, and stay true to our center. A good way to practice this is to tune into our heart space every morning before we begin our day. From the moment we open our eyes, we have a choice as to how we go about our day, and how we choose to operate in the world. If we begin our day by dropping into our heart space, and the center of stillness within, it gives us an opportunity to come from a centered place in all of our interactions, so that we may be operating from a space of love, rather than being thrown off our center by any particular encounter. Since we encounter so many different energies within our realities on a moment by moment basis and we are required to interact with these energies, it is good to be coming from a centered approach.

A good way to do this is to come into our hearts by focussing on our breath and begin circular breathing, so that we can activate the chi within our bodies. Most of the time we are in need of going to the bathroom first thing in the morning. It doesnt have to take long for us to do this practice. It is more about finding your center within the heart. If that takes just 2 minutes then great, if it takes 10 minutes then great. It all really depends on where you are in any given moment. First focus on your heart, and imagine a golden sphere of light pulsating in the center of stillness within the center of your being, usually located between your heart chakra and solar plexus. As you breathe into this golden sphere, you can allow it expand on the exhale, creating a bubble of golden light around your body and spilling out into the room. When that feels established, you can add a rainbow sphere of light around your golden sphere to allow for neutrality within your energetic matrix. This practice can be jarring to your reality at first, so be mindful of this, as you begin to expand your awareness outside of the proverbial matrix. Ending this practice by remaining deeply in your heart center of peace and stillness, will then establish a construct within which to operate in your daily reality allowing you to listen and hear your original thoughts and to recognize what is yours and what is not. Allowing this discernment will change your life.
If you are interested in learning more practices that will change the way you interact with the world on an energetic and verbal level, the Energetic Responsibility Online Course will be coming up in September in the fall of this year. You can sign up by sending me an email expressing your interest and I will be sure to put you on the list. Other courses will be offered including Magi and Priestess Trainings, and Sacred Pilgrimages next year.

Also, just to let you know, I am writing a 3-Volume Series about Multi-Dimensional Living entitled Kaleidoscope. Stay tuned for my keynote speaking engagements coming up in the new year as well

I will be Headlining 3 Days of Light again this year on the weekend of August 28-30, 2015, where I will be one of the Keynote Speakers and performing my well known DNA Source Code Activation and Into the Void Ceremonies for all participants.

Life is full of surprises, and we must be prepared and ready to embrace life as it comes, while taking care of ourselves rather than care taking others and depleting ourselves.

I truly hope this has benefited you, and that this reflection, learned from my own experience, is useful in some way.
Lokah Samastah Sukhino Bhavantu – May All Beings Be Free From Suffering
Namaste  __/\__
We are always ONE~

Rev. Dr. Saralise Antara Nada Azrael, D.V.M.
Doctor of Vibrational Medicine

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